A chance to help an earthquake widow

July 12, 2015

We thought you would be interested to read this story of a woman WWR has just started to help, thanks to your generous donations following the earthquake we have been able to help her already.  This is her story, more than anything we ask you to please pray for her.

Sumitra Rai

Sumitra used to live in Kuleshor, Kathmandu with her husband Satrughan and daughter Surupa. Her husband used to work in Civil Mall for family daily bread. She also used to work as care giver in a school but in temporary basis but she had left that job because of daughter’s school. She was searching another job after daughter’s school starts. But entire situation has been changed suddenly after 25thApril 2015.
On that day, earthquake struck without any warning. She was at church service with her daughter that time. Husband had night duty and that time he was at home sleeping. After earthquake, she gave a telephone call in his mobile phone but he did not receive that. He had night duty that night too and she and her daughter were terrifying so much so Sumitra went to her relative’s house with her daughter. From there she gave several telephone calls but he did not received phone. Then they went to her rented room to check the situation. She found that the house where they were was completely collapsed due to earthquake. The people from neighborhood told her that there was couple of people inside trapped or dead. The debris from that house completely buried her household stuffs and possessions. The only thing she had were the clothes she was wearing. She tried to search for her husband at relative’s houses and every hospital in Kathmandu but she did not find him. Then she had a doubt that he was buried under the debris of destroyed house.
Nepal Army, police and other relief workers tried to search for her husband on the debris from the second day of major earthquake. After four days of hard works of Armies, Polices, her relatives and other rescue workers, they found the dead body of her husband trapped under that destroyed house. This had been taken out after 4 days. Nepal Police gave her the death certificate and the dead body of her husband. Beside that she did not get any relief from government.
She lost not only her husband but lost all possessions. She was not in condition to search of her stuffs from the debris as she was in grief. After a week she tried to search of her stuffs from the debris but she found that all of her stuffs were stolen at night or taken by my neighbors pretending as their possessions. Now she is on the refuge of her relatives. She became widow and has nothing left. She had lost not only her husband but all the household utensils and possessions as well.
She had just admitted herself on class ONE at Prerana School as she had great desire to learn read and write. But it seems very hard for her to continue it. She is helpless by every mean and not able to survive without support from others.
Sumitra is a committed member of Bethsaida Church – Nepal. Originally she is from Makwanpur district. She is from a back ward ethnic group and she has never been to school. She is 27 years old and has one daughter of 6 years.

WWR is desperately trying to find her somewhere to live and will replace all her household goods.  Please pray that a suitable place will be found as available rooms are hard to find since so many were destroyed.  She is in need of a sponsor, which costs £15 per month, but most importantly will commit to pray for her regularly.  Please contact us if you can help, thank you.


Another day, another new lady

May 15, 2013

Sarswoti Surkheti

Sarswoti Surkheti2

Another new lady is in need of help today, her name is Sarswoti and her son is Sanjay.  Her husband and older son died on a construction site when they received an electric shock.  She and her son need a sponsor both for their rent and education.  Please get in contact if you can help.

 


Introducing Kanchhi Maya

March 22, 2013

Introducing Kanchhi Maya

This is Kanchhi Maya; she is 31 years old and has a five year old son. Her husband disappeared a few years ago and has not been heard of since. Her in-laws treat her very badly and she works as a labourer on construction sites even though she suffers from asthma. We require a sponsor for her, it costs just £15 and will be sufficient to pay her rent as well as cover treatment for her asthma. Please contact us if you can help. Thank you.


A new woman and her story

June 26, 2011

If you are wondering what situations our women find themselves in and why they need help then read on.  This is the story of a new woman who has just been referred to us, it is in her own words:

I am 35 yrs old.  I used to live in a village along with my son, daughter and husband.  We were farmer and my husband was carpenter but unfortunately my husband had suffered from throat cancer. We took lots of loan from villagers and brought him to Kathmandu for his treatment, but it was too late and he took rest in the Lord.  Because of my poverty  my sister in law took my daughter with her for her bright future.

When I was in miserable condition one of the bad man misbehaved me and he had rapped me. Then I could not able to faced out to the villagers, he destroyed not only my life but entire my family social life.
In our society  what ever be the matter the villagers had blamed women they accused me characterless women and locked me at my house, my brother in law took my son along with him then I was completely alone. I did not have any other alternative so I got forcefully married with the same man who raped me. My stories doesn’t end here after marriage, I had got one daughter from him. I had got physically and mentally torture from my new husband and my in laws.  It was intolerable to me so I ran away from their and I divorce him and settle to the my new life  along with my daughter.  I started to work as a maid to earn my livelihood. Still my life is going on sorrow and pain.
Please pray for me.

If you’d like to understand more about forced marriage then this book, the story of one Nepali woman, can help: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Radhikas-Story-Surviving-Human-Trafficking/dp/1847737250/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1309186147&sr=1-1


A new assistant in Nepal

June 2, 2010

We are pleased that Subhadra, one of the women we currently support and herself a single mother, will be joining Bina in Nepal as her new assistant. She will help with running errands and visiting and encouraging the other ladies we support.

Subhadra has been a single mother for a long time, her husband didn’t bother to come and pick her up from the hospital after she gave birth to her daughter! 

Subhadra’s daughter is now about 19 years old and is studying to be a nurse in Tansen at a mission hospital. Subhadra was incredibly proud of her and showed me a beautiful photo of her daughter looking very smart in a nurse’s uniform. Subhadra herself seemed like a wise Christian woman and very thankful for how WWR had helped her.

 We thought all this experince and success would be great for some of our younger and newly-single mothers to hear and sensed that Subhadra would be a good support to them. We will employ her to visit the women when Bina is busy and deliver items or small amounts of money to them as need be, we hope she will pray with them too.

Wise Subhadra


The Living Dead – Channel 4 highlights the plight of widows in Nepal

November 16, 2009

If you have a spare 25 minutes please make time to watch the latest edition of Unreported World on Channel 4, it is available to view at the ‘4On Demand’ website for the next 27 days (until 13th December 2009).  I warn you though, it will make you cry.

The presenter Yemi Ipaye visits a number of child widows living in the South-West of the country.  Their situations are desperate.  One girl was married at 11 and widowed at 13.  She was married off at a young age because the dowry paid by the parents is less the younger the bride is.  Now she is viewed as a burden by her parents who beat and verbally abuse her; she will not be married again as she is now perceived as being bad luck and is blamed for the death of her husband.  Like many widows she may need to resort to prostitution to provide for herself.

The Hindu belief in reincarnation makes it clear that bad luck in this life is determined by past sins in a previous life.  Therefore young widows are ostracised by society and insulted, they are treated as if they were evil and are isolated and become the ‘living dead’, the title of the program.  In the past in Nepal sati was practiced.  This is the ritual suicide of a wife when her husband dies.  It was carried out by the widow climbing onto the funeral pyre of her husband and burning alive.  The practice was outlawed across Nepal and India a century ago but the prejudice and stigma that enforced it remains today.  It seems that a widow’s life is worth nothing.

A widow in Kathmandu described how she had been asked to leave her home when her landlord discovered she was a widow.  Now she no longer tells anyone, simply lying that her husband is working overseas.  She is impoverished and has had to send her two children to an orphanage because she can not look after them. 

Women Without Roofs supports women that are on their own either because they are widowed or their husband is missing.  Please help us to help more women like these.


Renee Writes

April 26, 2009

Renée, one of our trustees, and her husband Terry recently returned from a trip to Nepal.  Renée writes:-

It was good to be back in Nepal again, this time based mainly in Kathmandu.  At the best of times, general day to day living is not easy for the Nepali people and currently there is electric for only eight hours out of a twenty four hour period (2x4hr stretches) This is due to a lack of rain to feed the hydro electric plants.  The electric frequently comes on at midnight or four in the morning!  As it it dark around 6.30pm, people have to cook the main meal of the day (rice & lentils) by candlelight and spend the rest of the evening in the dark.  There is no-one who is not affected.  Shops (open till late) can hardly see what they are selling.  Tailors (of which there are many) cannot see to sew at night and cannot use their sewing machines by day.  Offices cannot function and so it goes on …..

We spent a good deal of time visiting the ladies supported by Women Without Roofs (WWR).  All are so very grateful for the help given to them by WWR, which has of course, come from you, our supporters.  The ladies have tragic stories to tell.  One lady had fallen into a fire as a child and never received treatment.  Eventually she was given away in an arranged marriage, her husband then left her because of her deformed body.  A second lady cares for her disabled husband, who cannot move, due to a fall from a high scaffolding.  He lies in bed almost all of the time.  Everything is done for him.  They live in a small sparse room which works as a kitchen, bedroom and place to sit.

The rooms WWR provide are basic with limited facilities.  I have to be honest about that.  We ensure the women have the essential items i.e. a bed, blankets, gas stove, a bag of rice, saucepans and other essential items.  By standards here in the Western world, it is poor.  In reality, it is the level of how most Nepalis live.  I have to remind myself of this over and over again.  I would love to be able to pick all the ladies up and transform their lives completely, but I know, as you do, that is not possible.

Laxmi - preparing food in her room

Laxmi - preparing food in her room

How then, can I continue to help these women?  I will continue working hard on their behalf, throw myself into fundraising, keep in touch via our assistant, Bina, in Kathmandu, try to inspire people in our country.  An article in a womens magazine is soon to be published.  Many of us still have so much in spite of our “credit crunch”; that’s not wrong, its how it is here in the UK.  I feel sure if you were able to experience life in a third world country you also would be stirred.

So finally, may I express my heartfelt thanks to all our supporters.  Without you there would be no WWR and many people would be living on the streets or under plastic sheeting.  God Bless you all for your love and care.  Please get back to me if you would like more first hand information.

Renee can be contacted via renee@wwr-nepal.org


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